New Store!!!!

I have “soft opened” my new lingerie and adult toy store.

While there is still alot of work to do, in appearance, style, products, I’m quite happy with the progress.

I am starting out with a few sale items, including We-Vibe and free shipping.

Payment right now is through PayPal, as it helps keep costs down, but more payment options are being added soon.

 I hope you visit and enjoy Romantically Rebecca Lingerie & Adult Toys

 

Lingerie for Real Women

 

Hips and Curves.com  is a site I just found offering really nice, full figured, lingerie. It is such a large collection that there is something for everyone.

 The styles are very classic, comfortable, and are very figure flattering for a real shaped woman. I love the amount of corsets and bustiers offered to show off a woman’s figure, and they are designed to give support where it is most needed.

 The pricing is competitive, and  the look of the site is very positive and supportive, even in their choice of beautiful, volumptous models. There’s even a buyer’s guide section with tips for men and an in-depth sizing chart. There are also gift cards!!!!

 

I’m Quite Excited

I love sexy clothes, especially undergarments that make me feel good. I typically become frustrated looking for lingerie and other items that are not only comfortable, but that make me feel good.

 My original plan was to produce a line of delicates for women, that “real women” could wear. Yep, it can be done, but not a prices that regular women could afford. (The production costs are incredible), and that was one of my criteria.

It looks that I have found some really good alternatives, working with clothing manufacturers to “mix and match” items that could create an affordable, quality alternatives for women.  And the best part is that by seeing how the items blend together, it  allows women to shop in their favorite lingerie stores and help them choose items that could realistically work for them.

 I’m excited, and there’s lots to do. More details to come

 

Polyamory

I ran across this article in the NYT online on polyamory. What is polyamory? That would depend on who you talked to, as people have different interpretations of what constitutes a poly relationship. And often, it gets confused with the swinger’s lifestyle.

The difference between swingers and poly culture is that swinging is more about the act of having multiple physical partners, while polyamory is about a relationship with more than one partner. Poly involves an emotional attachment to someone other than your primary partner.

At first glance, many people assume that polyamorous couples (and swingers) are using the concept of an open relationship to “fix” problems within a marriage. While it does happen, people in both lifestyles will tell you that the core of the relationship needs to be rock solid, or the issues of either lifestyle could easily end a relationship.

 And studies have shown that couples that participate in swinging not only have a more positive view of marriage, but also have a more positive view of the world in general.

Is it the road for everyone? Not at all. For most, the fantasy of multiple partners, or the idea of a side lover is quite enough. And thats absolutely fine. Many people in the swinging community will tell you that there are many couples who enjoy the openness of conversation but never venture into participation.  Whatever your comfort level, thats the right place for you.

 

Funny Toy Story

I want this site to be a fun, positive experience for women and couples. A place to explore, have fun, and understand that exploration is fun.  So I decided to share some funny stories from my past.

 Many years ago, on a whim, I got a job working in an adult sex toy store, in a small Midwest town. It was alot of fun, actually one of the most fun jobs I have ever had. Of course, it was quite scandalous that I was working there, and the soccer moms were not exactly nice about it at times. At the same time, they would return their weekend movie rentals on Monday morning with the kids in the minivan and the movies tucked under their coats. Somehow they believed that I would not recognize them if they acted in a “stealth” manner of pretending to drop something on the ground, then slip the movies into the return slot.

 One soccer mom in particular was incredibly mean to me, probably as an attempt to discount any info I might share with others about her and her husband’s movie choices. Of course I never would, and second, they always picked the lamest movies available.

One evening, she drove up to the store, slammed on the brakes and ran into the store asking for help. Her husband was in the van and something was wrong. I ran outside to find him face down in the back of the minivan with a dildo stuck in his ass!!!! I guess they didn’t know about using lube. (Good thing I’m writing this blog, to help people from these unfortunate sex toy disasters.)

My best advice was to take him to the ER, which she didn’t want to hear. But there was no way in hell I was going to do anything about it. Finally, she agreed to take him to the ER, and I never heard anymore about it.

Probably a good thing, although I wish I was in the ER that night.

 

Sex & Role Play

There can be nothing more fun to add to your sexual repertoire than sexual role play. And the role play itself isn’t really what is important. The important part is that it is an opportunity to act out fantasies with your partner in a safe environment. Being able to share your fantasies with your partner builds trust and intimacy.

 You don’t need lavish costumes or be an Oscar winning actor or actress to effectively role play. A tantalizing role playing sexual encounter is about creating a certain level of escape, exploring themes, and of course, having fun. Sex can, and should, at times have a certain level of play and playfulness to it. If it weren’t fun, we probably wouldn’t be talking about it now.

 It is important to remember that is it fantasy, and your partner sharing their fantasies and acting them out is special. It’s special that they trust enough to be able to share, and not be made to feel bad for their fantasies or role playing ideas. There are many theories, and incidents from life that make us attracted to certain ideas and concepts, from school girl fantasies to more fetish type fantasies. Regardless of what you may hear or think, they are all shared by millions of people, and are, in fact, normal.

 The most important rule is to remember that is is fun, and to have clear boundaries set. When your session of fantasy role playing is over, it’s over.  While talking about the session and what was enjoyable is OK, it is not OK to think of your partner differently because of their fantasies or by them enjoying the session. As a matter of fact, it means that you were successful in having your partner feel comfortable enough to “let go” and escape into the fantasy role play that you created.

 

New Silver Bullet

silver bullet vibrator

 I love my Silver Bullet vibrator. And the Silver Bullet is a great example of changes that happen in sex toys. My original Silver Bullet lasted about 3 years (the normal life span for a toy this type). When I went to replace it, I couldn’t find one that had the same power as the original. They had changed the design, used a smaller motor, and it just didn’t have the effect of the original version. VibeReview now has a version with the same, if not improved, qualities of the original.

As  far as the toy itself, it is just fun!. It is small enough to be inserted and used during intercourse, and has multiple speeds and rhythms of vibration. It is great at clitoral stimulation, and the sleek and small design means you can keep it in your nightstand for easy access.

For beginners, this is a great item. It is unintimidating, cleans very easy, and can be used in a multitude of ways. As far as sex toys, this is a great multitasker.

 

Fantasy & Exploration

Forbidden Door

Originally uploaded by elfinpoet

 

 

Fantasy and exploration are a healthy part of every aspect of life. The same holds true with in the boundaries of our sexuality. People are always curious on how Pete & I developed the ability to have such an open and honest dialogue.

The short answer is communication. It’s not something that happened overnight, and for us, was a very organic process that took place over a long period of time. It was deeper and deeper levels of trust, and deeper levels of sharing, always taking in a bit of information, and then taking the time needed to digest and understand the information given us.

Maybe the hardest part was being able to listen to concepts that flew in the face of everything that I had been taught about men and relationships, and learn to open my ears and thoughts, and understand what I was being told. Yes, there were things hard to hear, or things that took a very long time to understand.

And through it all, I learned that the journey, not the destination was the true success. Even if you never reach the goal, but have learned to communicate with your partner on a different level, you are much further along than most people.

There are many possibilities for exploration, including swinging, BDSM, role play, fetish and more. What they have in common is the need to respect your partner, take things slow, and enjoy the ability to share your fantasies with your partner.

 

More on your first toy purchase

Finding the right toy can become very daunting, even to the most sex savvy.

Sorry men, this is for the girls.

 
Ladies, I can only say it’s much like going down the feminine product aisle. We all know what the product does and we all start out with the basics. Years ago, we had but a few items to choose from. Over time, the market has been flooded with items containing new bells, whistles and wings. We wade through the options and find our favorite item to be the one that works best of our body and personal needs. The same holds true with toys.

For stress relief, there’s nothing quite like the simple hum & pure pleasure of a good adult toy. Choosing the right vibrator can be anything but simple. With the multitude of sizes, shapes, colors, functions and materials available, it’s no surprise some women feel overwhelmed by the thought of having to select one.

Which vibrator will bring  the most pleasure? The most pleasureful toy would be the one that ‘WORKS’ for you.

What if I find out I’m not a toy person or I don’t like it after i buy it? Everyone is a toy person. If you enjoy sex, you are a toy person, you maybe just have to find the one that floats your boat. The best toys are not always the most flashy & fancy. And with a little self honestly & exploration, you’ll find one that fits your wants & needs.

I don’t want to spend alot, price is a huge factor. Try clearance and sale items. Why not start with a “better” product at a price you can be comfortable with. In the constant and ever changing marketplace, more and more toys  end on the clearance shelf as they are replaced by something newer.  Just like with cars, new models and colors come out all the time, leaving the same toy in purple to be on the sale shelf as the new hot color replacing it is cherry red.

What I would suggest as a first toy would be something less intimidating, on the smaller side, in  pretty colors and NOT anatomically correct.
 
Some good things to remember:

1.  Size is not everything. Start with something small.
2.  Motor, motor, motor. Cheap motors don’t last long and  don’t always work as they should. Like sneakers, a good pair will fit and last stretching with your feet while a cheap pair might look OK, but will leave your feet cramped and unsatisfied.
3.  Price.  Try clearance and sale items where you can get a better product at a price you are comfortable with.
4. The Internet is a great place to shop and ask or email questions. If you are not comfortable walking into your local adult store, take full advantage of the anonymity of the Internet, and ask questions. Plus, items are typically shipped to you in a plain box. Can’t get any easier.
5.  Don’t put the task of buying a toy on your partner. It is a very personal choice that requires your input.

Finding the right first toy doesn’t have to be a stressful process.With just a basic understanding of your needs and an understanding of how certain vibrators can satisfy your needs, you’ll find one that will make you smile long into the future.
Happy Hunting.

Rebecca-a Rabbit lover, not a beginner toy

 

VibeReview.com

Sex Toys @ VibeReview!

I’ve been searching for an outlet for good info, good prices, and a really positive place for women to explore. I’ve been looking at VibeReview.com for awhile, and have loved their site, product reviews and information.

 A recent recommendation from the dear Catalina, and I’ve switched my program to VibeReview. I still love my old affiliate program, they were great to me, and I do my best to be loyal to those loyal to me. But it’s time to go in many new directions, and VibeReview always seems to be in front, supporting women bloggers and sex positive agendas. That’s something I can get behind.