There can be nothing more fun to add to your sexual repertoire than sexual role play. And the role play itself isn’t really what is important. The important part is that it is an opportunity to act out fantasies with your partner in a safe environment. Being able to share your fantasies with your partner builds trust and intimacy.

 You don’t need lavish costumes or be an Oscar winning actor or actress to effectively role play. A tantalizing role playing sexual encounter is about creating a certain level of escape, exploring themes, and of course, having fun. Sex can, and should, at times have a certain level of play and playfulness to it. If it weren’t fun, we probably wouldn’t be talking about it now.

 It is important to remember that is it fantasy, and your partner sharing their fantasies and acting them out is special. It’s special that they trust enough to be able to share, and not be made to feel bad for their fantasies or role playing ideas. There are many theories, and incidents from life that make us attracted to certain ideas and concepts, from school girl fantasies to more fetish type fantasies. Regardless of what you may hear or think, they are all shared by millions of people, and are, in fact, normal.

 The most important rule is to remember that is is fun, and to have clear boundaries set. When your session of fantasy role playing is over, it’s over.  While talking about the session and what was enjoyable is OK, it is not OK to think of your partner differently because of their fantasies or by them enjoying the session. As a matter of fact, it means that you were successful in having your partner feel comfortable enough to “let go” and escape into the fantasy role play that you created.