December 10, 2008
I have “soft opened” my new lingerie and adult toy store.
While there is still alot of work to do, in appearance, style, products, I’m quite happy with the progress.
I am starting out with a few sale items, including We-Vibe and free shipping.
Payment right now is through PayPal, as it helps keep costs down, but more payment options are being added soon.
I hope you visit and enjoy Romantically Rebecca Lingerie & Adult Toys
November 2, 2008
I want this site to be a fun, positive experience for women and couples. A place to explore, have fun, and understand that exploration is fun. So I decided to share some funny stories from my past.
Many years ago, on a whim, I got a job working in an adult sex toy store, in a small Midwest town. It was alot of fun, actually one of the most fun jobs I have ever had. Of course, it was quite scandalous that I was working there, and the soccer moms were not exactly nice about it at times. At the same time, they would return their weekend movie rentals on Monday morning with the kids in the minivan and the movies tucked under their coats. Somehow they believed that I would not recognize them if they acted in a “stealth” manner of pretending to drop something on the ground, then slip the movies into the return slot.
One soccer mom in particular was incredibly mean to me, probably as an attempt to discount any info I might share with others about her and her husband’s movie choices. Of course I never would, and second, they always picked the lamest movies available.
One evening, she drove up to the store, slammed on the brakes and ran into the store asking for help. Her husband was in the van and something was wrong. I ran outside to find him face down in the back of the minivan with a dildo stuck in his ass!!!! I guess they didn’t know about using lube. (Good thing I’m writing this blog, to help people from these unfortunate sex toy disasters.)
My best advice was to take him to the ER, which she didn’t want to hear. But there was no way in hell I was going to do anything about it. Finally, she agreed to take him to the ER, and I never heard anymore about it.
Probably a good thing, although I wish I was in the ER that night.
October 25, 2008
silver bullet vibrator
I love my Silver Bullet vibrator. And the Silver Bullet is a great example of changes that happen in sex toys. My original Silver Bullet lasted about 3 years (the normal life span for a toy this type). When I went to replace it, I couldn’t find one that had the same power as the original. They had changed the design, used a smaller motor, and it just didn’t have the effect of the original version. VibeReview now has a version with the same, if not improved, qualities of the original.
As far as the toy itself, it is just fun!. It is small enough to be inserted and used during intercourse, and has multiple speeds and rhythms of vibration. It is great at clitoral stimulation, and the sleek and small design means you can keep it in your nightstand for easy access.
For beginners, this is a great item. It is unintimidating, cleans very easy, and can be used in a multitude of ways. As far as sex toys, this is a great multitasker.
October 23, 2008
Finding the right toy can become very daunting, even to the most sex savvy.
Sorry men, this is for the girls.
Ladies, I can only say it’s much like going down the feminine product aisle. We all know what the product does and we all start out with the basics. Years ago, we had but a few items to choose from. Over time, the market has been flooded with items containing new bells, whistles and wings. We wade through the options and find our favorite item to be the one that works best of our body and personal needs. The same holds true with toys.
For stress relief, there’s nothing quite like the simple hum & pure pleasure of a good adult toy. Choosing the right vibrator can be anything but simple. With the multitude of sizes, shapes, colors, functions and materials available, it’s no surprise some women feel overwhelmed by the thought of having to select one.
Which vibrator will bring the most pleasure? The most pleasureful toy would be the one that ‘WORKS’ for you.
What if I find out I’m not a toy person or I don’t like it after i buy it? Everyone is a toy person. If you enjoy sex, you are a toy person, you maybe just have to find the one that floats your boat. The best toys are not always the most flashy & fancy. And with a little self honestly & exploration, you’ll find one that fits your wants & needs.
I don’t want to spend alot, price is a huge factor. Try clearance and sale items. Why not start with a “better” product at a price you can be comfortable with. In the constant and ever changing marketplace, more and more toys end on the clearance shelf as they are replaced by something newer. Just like with cars, new models and colors come out all the time, leaving the same toy in purple to be on the sale shelf as the new hot color replacing it is cherry red.
What I would suggest as a first toy would be something less intimidating, on the smaller side, in pretty colors and NOT anatomically correct.
Some good things to remember:
Finding the right first toy doesn’t have to be a stressful process.With just a basic understanding of your needs and an understanding of how certain vibrators can satisfy your needs, you’ll find one that will make you smile long into the future.
Happy Hunting.
Rebecca-a Rabbit lover, not a beginner toy
October 23, 2008
I’ve been searching for an outlet for good info, good prices, and a really positive place for women to explore. I’ve been looking at VibeReview.com for awhile, and have loved their site, product reviews and information.
A recent recommendation from the dear Catalina, and I’ve switched my program to VibeReview. I still love my old affiliate program, they were great to me, and I do my best to be loyal to those loyal to me. But it’s time to go in many new directions, and VibeReview always seems to be in front, supporting women bloggers and sex positive agendas. That’s something I can get behind.
October 22, 2008
The other day I stopped into an adult store for some lotions and other fun items. There are not a lot of choices in town when it comes to adult stores, but the thing they have in common is that they are sleazy, dark, and uninviting.
As soon as I walked in, I was followed around as if I was going to steal something. For every item I touched, the salesman (who was rather creepy) kept coming over trying to explain everything to me in a condescending way. Many items were up too high to inspect without the assistance of a salesperson.
Women are touchers, and like to comparison shop. All the lotions were behind glass, with limited samples to smell the fragrances.
I don’t understand why they don’t cater more to women. Women control the purse strings in many households, but will not shop in an environment that perpetuates the myth that buying adult novelties is low class and shameful. The shops are not sex positive or sexually empowering.
If you were walking down the street and ten women passed you, how many of those women do you think would shop in the typical adult store? Maybe 1? But 5 or 6 probably own at least a vibrator. They are buying them somewhere.
In many areas, sex toy parties are quite popular, but still not the perfect environment for women to purchase sex toys. Especially those women looking to explore this area for the first time. Being in an atmosphere of their friends and coworkers, they are unlikely to ask the pertinent questions, and if they do purchase, they will purchase extremely feminine, conservative items in order to keep up appearances.
Why not a more open and hospitable atmosphere? Taking out our current recession, people today have three times the discretionary income than they had 50 years ago. And still they feel no more satisfied with their lives. Many economic studies have shown the extra discretionary income is being spent on personal fulfillment, whether it be self help books, health clubs, religious fulfillment, etc. This is considered a long term trend with sexuality being another fulfillment that is being explored.
If stores wanted to tap into this open market, they need to create a more sex friendly and sensual environment. Imagine a store like Victoria’s Secret that offered a range of sensual novelties. If I never had owned a toy before I would not want to spend $85.00 on my first one. After all, what if I didn’t like it? How would I even know which one was right for me to buy?
Without being educated or helped along by a knowledgeable sales person, most women are likely to buy a cheap toy made with hard plastic and a motor with hardly any power to vibrate. Many women will buy a first toy base on price. They usually don’t look at it as an investment in their pleasure, but more as an appliance purchase, about as much fun as buying a new blender. Low end toys hurt and are uncomfortable and can be a complete turnoff to toys. Women use it, have a bad experience thinking they are not the type to enjoy sex toys, and never even considering the possibility it was the toy itself. They may never revisit the use of toys again for many years, if at all.
And not every toy do you fall in love with. There is a learning curve to what is pleasurable to any woman. Some women prefer outside stimulation, while others prefer internal stimulation. It is a trial and error process in the beginning, but a store with a knowledgeable female staff can help narrow down the range of choices.
What about a store with lingerie for everyday women, not just twenty-something girls but real MILFs with unpleasant areas to cover and and an ass that will not do well in a thong. Offering delectable gourmet chocolates, aromatherapy incense and adult games & books alongside nighties, sexy robes, shoes and dresses in a brightly lit, modern boutique design would attract everyday women. A friendly, knowledgeable mostly women staff with a sensual counselor a few times a week for expert advise would help make a woman feel very special.
Anything you buy from there, even a bottle of massage oil or a box of chocolate would be a luxurious shopping event. With that type of setup, women wouldn’t feel weird if a friend or neighbor saw them walk into the store or noticed their vehicle parked out front.
My site here will evolve into that vision. But it is now, and will be women friendly and sex positive.
If you stimulate their interest, they will soon be stimulating themselves.
